Make Her Addicted To You

I put up a post about How To Make Him Addicted To You because I saw so many articles and books around the net about women changing their behaviour to seduce or attract a man.

I was raised with some strong female leadership in my family and grew up with a healthy respect for a woman's wisdom, abilities and capacity to love.  I hated these articles that lead young women, especially, to think that a certain shade of lipstick, or suppressing her opinions and fine mind, and kowtowing to a man's every whim is the way to get us and keep us.  Excuse me?  It's the 21st Century.  Didn't the Women's Movement teach us anything?  Ok, maybe some men are still waiting for a Woman's Right To Vote to be overturned by the Supreme Court, but most of us are looking for a lot more from the women in our lives than silly, airhead media sychophants. 

So I wrote some "tips" myself saying what I like in a woman.

Many of you commented and several of you asked for similar tips on the flip side.  Then my good friend justgabm came over and REALLY bemoaned the fact that there was a shortage of serious Relationship Tips for men who need to understand the woman.  Why is "she" always being told the importance of what "he" thinks, even if she did agree with most of my post?

Please understand that justgabm and I are good FRIENDS.  We are not angry with one another.  We both have odd senses of humor and enjoy the give and take of sparring with words and playing a friendly tag game of  "upmanship".  In the process we hope that you are entertained and that we have given you something to think about in the serious and age old battle of the sexes
8 Tips To...   Make Her Addicted To You!

Lads, getting a hot woman addicted to you will not happen on its own; you have to make it happen. To get your dream girl to stick to you and throw a blind eye at other chaps, you have to work at it, understand the technique, and put it into practice. These simple and easy tips will help in that regard.

Tip #1:  Look good alwaysWithout fulfilling this part correctly, every other thing you do will be in vain. Hot women want to be around a guy that looks good and smells fresh always. That doesn't mean you have to be the most handsome guy on the planet, or even in the room.  It just means...    Take care of your body, shave or trim properly and dress in impeccably neat clothes even if they're your jeans.   Let this be a habit and she will just like you naturally

 Tip #2:  Be relevant to her
Ditch the arrogance and don't assume she needs your advice.  If she does ask for your advice, make it practical and useful. Respect her.  Be generous with your time and attention.  Don't make her feel like she has to compete with your "other" interests.  If you give her a gift, don't attach hidden strings.  Learn about her.  How she thinks.  What she likes.  Anticipate and do for her before she asks sometimes.  You want her to need you always.  That doesn't mean forcing her to act needy.  It means being there with strong support when she needs you to be.  And letting her work things through on her own if that's what she indicates she wants.  You can trust her.  Women have been pretty wise down through the ages
Tip #3:  Don't flirt or appear promiscuous
No matter how handsome and rich or generous and kind you are, once a woman finds out you are hanging out with other women, it's over. She will avoid you like a plague for her own safety. So be the one-woman man and praise her to high esteem always.
Tip #4:  Be her best friend 

Don't just date her for a relationship where you're meeting your own needs; let her know you as a friend she can tell everything to.  So many of our women are starved for us to just talk to them like we are with an intelligent being.  Even little gossips now and then will foster an addiction in her for you.  Most men avoid it like the world would end.  You can't imagine how fun it can be to make her confide in you her dirty little secrets.  Be there to listen always.  This is your woman.  You'll be surprised when you give her a chance all she has to say that you should hear
Tip #5:  Be fun to be with

Always add a little humor to your conversations and let her feel lively around you. Don't try to sound like a geek or a professor always lecturing. Boring! Talk about things that will catch her interest.
Tip #6:  Appreciate her help and presence   

Make her see that you truly enjoy her company and look forward to it. While she is away, send her a text message or e-mail or call and tell her how much you miss her

Tip #7:  Make her miss you  

While she is with you, do things that are special and unique. These are memories she will hold onto while away and will make her rush back into your arms as soon as she can

Tip #8:  Now listen carefully  

What you are about to discover is something most men do not know when it comes to attracting women. This is one thing which is an absolute must know for every man out there. You are about to discover an ultimate secret weapon which will make women chase you around like crazy.

.....Trust me....You don't want to miss this one. I strongly urge you to read everything in this tip because it might be the most important message you ever read:

You have to engage a woman's mind!   She is NOT just looking for the most handsome or richest guy.  Many a Mum has lamented the fact that her daughter ran off with a poor man.  She will go for the man who treats her like his partner and this starts from your pick up line!  You have to make her think, you have to challenge her, because most guys act like....  well, most guys.

You don't need to be good looking, or wealthy... you just need to understand a woman's psychology.  Get her psychologically hooked on you by creating a hardy emotional connection with her.  If you really want to get her addicted to you become a master who can understand her emotions.  If you can't touch her emotions, then you won’t be capable of winning her heart.  Remember that females are different from us men.  We are taught to discount our emotions, to hide them and disregard  them.  But emotions are how she relates to the world.  Discount them and you discount her. 

Think about it.  Why does a woman fall for the same kind of jerk over and over again or stay with a cheating husband again and again?    SHE CAN'T HELP WHO SHE IS ATTRACTED TO AND FALLS IN LOVE WITH.   She's hard wired to follow her emotions, not logic.  You must do what the jerks and cheaters have learned to do, only for their own gratification...   if you want her heart, trigger the emotional attraction centers in her and if you want to keep her, work WITH her psychology.

Avoid too much attention too early....  she won't respond to you for long; she'll read you as a player.  Put her on a footing  where she doesn't know if you like her or not.  She'll wonder.  You're different.  You aren't trying to play her?  Now, she HAS to have you like her.  You just might be that guy that recognizes there is more to her than being your play pretty.
Men are essentially more single-minded than a woman.  If we focus on her as the object of our affecton, we can often come off as just a skirt-chaser.  For her  -- situations are couched emotionally.  For instance, take the situation of not calling.  If it's her that's supposed to call you and doesn't?  You just think she got busy.  You would never think, "Oh!  She's not interested in me."

But for her, if it's you that's supposed to call and doesn't?  There could be a million reasons.  You've been killed in a car accident.  You are NOT interested. 
Remember, you hate questions about the relationship, ALL the time.  But she needs them.  She needs to know you are "into" her.  If you can't say it, at least you must display an alpha male body language all the time. You need to make her feel that you are exceptional -- to her. Your body language is crucial when she's around you.  It is proven that a big component of conversation is nonverbal. So, be mindful of the signals you are sending and how she reads them.  It's just a call to you.  Miss it and you'll find you've had a whole conversation you never dreamed of.  Don't let her know she's safe in your arms and you'll find yourself looking for another woman to care for.

The sum of all this, boyos, is that we need to be about pleasing the women we think are hot.  And not with what pleases US.  We have to take the time to know what pleases HER.

It doesn't hurt to also be some measure of the Romantic.

Be secure, punctual, and respectful to her and her family.  Don't shy from showing her your gentle, affectionate side.  But most importantly, be yourself. You do not need to be an actor and pretend to qualities you don't have.  Cultivate the things in yourself that will please her, because if you pretend, sooner or later it will blow up in your face, no matter how cool you think you are.  Women are not so stupid as to not distinguish the false from the real. You'll only fool her and yourself for so long.  Just be yourself and respect your woman. 

The path to the heart for each one of us is different.  You'll never be the perfect man.  And you'll never find the perfect woman.  But you can both establish the perfect relationship -- together.